Why thinking you're ugly is bad for you
我們喜歡鏡子中的自己嗎?
Meaghan Ramsey分享了人們對自己的容貌和身材看法,
和個人的self-esteem建立有相關性。
現今的青少年,常困惑,
"Am I pretty or am I ugly?"
網路及社交媒體的發達,
讓人們得以隨時有互動,
不分晝夜,
it's like there's a party in their bedroom every night.
因此青少年越來越在乎他們對他們的觀感和評論。
令人擔憂的是,
如果青少年受到太多媒體所形塑的男女的形象影響,
會花太多時間在外表了,
而忽略了其他人生重要的部分,
例如,their relationships, the development of their physical abilities, and their studies 。
許多青少年因為對自己的外表缺乏信心,
問題的癥結是 the way they "think" they look, not how they actually look。
對許多活動因而怯步,
影響學業成就,
也影響健康,
造成eating disorders和depression,
這也可能是alcohol and drug use; crash dieting; cosmetic surgery; unprotected, earlier sex的原因之一。
這些現象也造成醫療的負荷。
現今有許多活動,
意在建立青少年的body confidence,
但是卻常常適得其反。
Meaghan Ramsey提出建立青少年body confidence
的有效活動應具有的六個core themes:
1. Influence of family, friends, and relationships
2. Media and celebrity culture
3. Handling teasing and bullying
4. Competing and comparing looks
5. Talking about appearance (body talk/fat talk)
6. Respecting and looking after yourself
才能達到目標。
我們必須從這一方面著手,
青少年長大後才能 value their whole selves, individuality, diversity, inclusion。
Meaghan Ramsey的叮嚀和期許:
...the way you look is just one part of your identity
...A world where our kids are free to become the best versions of themselves, where the way they think they look never holds them back from being who they are or achieving what they want in life.
外表,
只是人的一部分,
不要忽略其他重要的部分,
我們要多多看重別人的努力和成就,
而不以貌取人,
以外觀論人。
我們,
心也更開濶,
悅納自己,
也接納別人,
身心才會健康、愉悅。
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